Monday, November 22, 2004

他说不上哪里好,但却无人代替

  常听好朋友对我说:他说不上哪里好,但却无人代替。仔细回味,这体现出的该是怎样一种乐观豁达而又理智的爱情!可能是愚昧无知的执着吧,可是我还是一味的认同,这个小丫头嘴里说出来的某些话还真像模像样,很深奥,头脑简单的人还真琢磨不透。而某些人还真就是这样子的。   有人说,自你一降生,就有一份天定的缘为你而生;然而大千世界,人海茫茫,生命苦短,如何才能找到属于你的那个完美的伴侣呢?现代的人们,总不能固守这份天缘,不能以易逝的青春和焦灼的心情屏息静候吧?于是,他(她)们常常很勉强地接受了随风而至的他(她),却又一遍遍地把他(她)和自己心目中那个完美的设想来进行对比,对比一次,失望一次。他们并不懂得,如何去珍惜身边的和已经拥有的;他们也不知道,自己已经得到的,其实就是最大的幸福,最真的爱情!
  什么是爱情?似乎有智者说过,爱情就是当你知道了他并不是你所崇拜的人,而且明白他还存在着种种缺点,却仍然选择了他,并不因为他的缺点而抛弃他的全部,否定他的全部。
  如果有这样一个人,他在你的心目中是绝对完美的,没有一丝缺陷,你敬畏他却又渴望亲近他,这种感觉不可以叫做“爱情”,而是“崇拜”。崇拜需要创造一个偶像,就像图腾之类没血没肉的东西;而爱情不需要,爱情是真真切切得能够用手触摸用心体会的。爱情是你明知他穿得十分“土气”,却甘愿带他出入于大庭广众;是你鄙视的杀猪匠,却偏偏做了杀猪匠的妻子;是你素有洁癖,却十分勤快地为他洗着油腻腻的饭盒脏兮兮的球鞋……
  一个朋友曾经问过我,如果有一份执着而持久的感情和一份金玉其外瞬间即逝的“感情”,你宁愿选择哪一种?——我说:世界上有许多出色的男孩和美丽的女孩,然而真正属于你的感情只能有一份;千万莫要因为别人的眼光而改变了自己的挚爱,莫要活在别人的眼光里而失去了自己!感情不能贪心,也不是梦想。“如果有谁认为有十全十美的爱情,他不是诗人,就是白痴。”这话使我深信不疑。所以,我们用心来守候着属于自己的、并不惊天动地的爱情,等待之后便是一生一世的厮守。
  “你说不上哪里好,但却无人代替”我也这样子喃喃的和他说过!可能吧,在每个人心里面每一个人都是无法代替的,代替品和影子并不是被人讨好的代名词。而每每想起这句话的感觉,总像是一对沧桑过尽的老人正手牵着手漫步在煦暖的阳光下,满脸幸福地回忆着往事……

10 comments:

tehtarik said...

Thank you for saying this.Though this is not new, it serves as a reminder to us that- "beauty lies in the eye of the beholder" and that beauty which we see in that person should not be marred by others' critiques. You wrote with much romanticsm in mind, with old sports shoes and all...:)

Dave said...

:) Keep up the good work! (though i cant understand most of it)

jacksons said...

Wooi Yennie, you can read Mandrin ah?

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